Stream of consciousness notes I wrote shortly after a talk I heard from a former teacher, coach, principal, and superintendent. Enjoy.
Your vibe attracts your tribe. When you enter a room, you can feel the mood. You can feel the energy, the vibrations, the tone. This is such a primal instinct , yet metaphysical/supernatural ability of the human race.
Aristotle famously said that we are what we repeatedly do... but is that so? Are we nothing more than the result of our actions? It feels a bit nihilistic to believe that all we are is a product of the world. Cant the world be a product of us too? at least on the individual level, I believe this to be true. Yes, we how we behave is a better testament to the type of people we are versus how we pretend to be in our minds and in conversation with others. But I refuse to believe that life can be reduced down to some mechanistic, mathematically predictable object in an systematically designed universe. I believe existing at all is something of a miracle, but becoming aware of our existence is what truly separates us as humans. Knowing that we have choice and that we can somehow influence the direction of our fate is a phenomena that quite frankly, is out of this world. It is beyond us.
Now, our vibe may attract our tribe, but our feelings also attract the same feelings. Our general outlook attracts a world that validates and confirms...rarely do we see the sky with our eyes focused solely on the ground. Similarly, our actions produce results. How we act and what we do decides what happens next. Pretty simple, right?
What about the quantum realm? What about the metaphysical? What about vibrations and frequencies? Can our human brains produce some sort of telepathic connection with other humans? Can we really "feel" the emotions of others, such as an empath might claim to do. How do we explain the visually absent happenings that have a direct, obvious affect on our being?
Ideas spread like diseases, and moods catch on like the cold. A negative attitude can become a cancer to the group. A resilient mindset assures and comforts those around who would otherwise succumb to doubt and fear. We know this to be true in sports, teams often take on the personality of the coach. In the same, teachers direct the ship of the classroom with their mood. Even kids can read and feel vibes way before they can read or interpret your words.
Everyone is influenced by the people around them whether it be for good or for ill. As I grew into my own as a teacher/coach, it was evident how much influence my parents, coaches, teachers had on me. Not just my professional identity, but my very human being. A coach is not always a mentor, but a good mentor is always a coach Like teaching, a good coach shows you that all the answers you seek are within yourself. They go beyond simple yes or no questions. They guide. An effective leader does not simply give you the answers, instead they direct you to finding the answers on your own.
"The Energy Bus"
1. You're the driver of your own bus. You create your world, your path. The world doesn't create you, not if you don't let it. The path is your responsibility. If you trust in God, you will know that the path you are on not only chooses you, but you are allowed to walk it in ways that ONLY YOU know how. You cannot always dictate the pace or direction, but you can dictate the mood and attitude of the bus. Don't be trapped by dogma. Have your vision and relentlessly pursue it. TAKE THE WHEEL. Look to the future, know where you're going. First decide what you want. Throw it out into the universe, then start creating it. Vocalize it to promote accountability. Pray for it...REALLY pray. Meditate on the word of God and know that all anxiety or fear of not receiving what you ask for is simply a distraction, a trick. Ask and you shall receive. Believe God is doing things for you. Pause, look within, step outside your everyday lens of perception. BREATHE. Doing these things lifts the burden of worry and doubt. It allows you to walk by faith in knowing that you are indeed on the right path. Getting there isn't so important anymore. Anticipation of arriving at the destination no longer drives your bus. Instead, you realize that your life is an easy Sunday drive through the woods of time. You and your lover are lightly cruising with the windows down and a Jason Isbell playlist on repeat. Life is good.
2. Desire, Vision, and Focus move your bus in the right direction. The law of attraction; the more you think it, the more you become it. The more you feel it, the more you attract it. The more you seek it, the more it seeks you. The amount of energy you direct towards visualizing your dream, the closer you are to seeing that dream manifest into reality. Thinking about who and how we want to be, determines how we act. (*Going Deeper...Belief isn't about how much you agree with it or think it to be true. No, belief can be measured by gaging your actions. How you act communicates what your true beliefs are, not your words.) Desire- to wish or long for, want. Vision- power of seeing; foresight. Focus- adjustment of the lens difference for clear image. To concentrate. Intentionality. Look for ways to be positive. Thoughts are (electro)magnetic... are you a whiner or a winner. Life will always find a way to knock you down and kick you in the teeth. Sometimes when you lease expect it... there are those that stay down and those who get back up.
3. Fuel your ride with positive energy. Your thoughts are your fuel. When we perceive a challenging event as a blessing in disguise, we control our reaction to the event Problem=opportunity. Reframe the mindset. Force yourself to be thankful. Thankful. Thankful. Not bitter. Not negative. Not entitled. Thankful. Attitude of gratitude. Your attitude determines your altitude. Having a vision and mission that has Buy in from those around you is what moves mountains. Move the in the Holy Spirt. Move dopamine. Optimism is an assistant. In fact, an optimistic mindset activates parts of your brain that seeks solutions.
4. Invite people onto your bus and share your vision with the road ahead
5. Don't waste your energy on those who won't get on your bus.... your positive has to be more powerful than anyone's negative. This isn't to say ignore or devalue anyone who disagrees with you. This means you cannot let their skepticism/doubt reel you into a trap of trying to debunk there firmly held presupposition. Simply listen, engage, consider, respond. Nothing can be taken personal in this battle of the intellect. Neither are right or wrong but both standing blindly and stubbornly in existence at the corner of perception and reality.
6. No energy vampires allowed... negativity is the enemy. Blaming others, bitterness try to steal your hope and joy.
7. Enthusiasm attracts more passengers and energizes them during the ride. Be the CEO of the room. (Chief Energy Officer)
8. Love your passengers. People don't care how much you know til they know how much you care. Deposit love and positivity into a relationship so that when you mess up, they will forgive you. The love I seek is one that has been built, not one that simply exits on a feeling. Feelings change with the seasons. The tide rises, the tide falls...and so is true with our moods. We must not spend our time on negativity and allow it to consume us. Show up even when you don't feel like it. Trust your better judgement; it occurred on a completely different plane of existence; one that is separate from your current wave of emotion. With romance, with religion, with respect for yourself...Make small deposits daily into these accounts. Reinforce the love and abundance you expect to receive with your outward expression. In other words, treat others as you would have them treat you, or "The Golden Rule."
"Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets."
*5 ways to love your passengers: time, listen, recognize, serve, acknowledge the best in them.
9. Drive with purpose. My why. Without it, we get tired and bored. (Google: LBJ- NASA janitor story. "Sir I'm not just a janitor, I'm helping put a man on the moon")
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how."
10. Have fun and enjoy the ride.
...Uhh, nothing inspirational needed to follow that up. Simply take life as an ever-changing experience. Any control or grip you think you have on this whole thing is a complete illusion. You don't call any shots. You just wake up into world that could come apart at the seams any minute. You live in a body that could collapse in lifelessness at any moment. So just relax, enjoy it while you're here.
Rhet's life could be summed up the same as a board game...when its over, it all goes back into the box. So play fairly, learn the value in patience and persistence, and remember to separate the player from the game. Besides, no matter where you're at, you're always just a roll of the dice away from the tables turning. You're never out of this thing.